Long-distance relationship advice

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There are many kinds of long-distance relationships happening all around the world. Some people are separated by work and school, and other people are kept apart by their sense of duty. The significant deployments and re-deployments faced by members of the military keep them apart from loved ones more than most other people, and we’re going to discuss how to handle this challenge.

Understand military challenges

Numerous difficulties are faced by members of the military as they pertain to long-distance relationships. While most people only have to turn on their computer or pull out their phone to close the gap digitally, a lot of people in the military don’t have that luxury. They could be in-field training, facing active combat, or be deployed in a place that doesn’t allow communications with their family or loved ones at all. It’s a very trying experience for these people, and it’s even worse when they are in a relationship. There are always doubts creeping into their minds, and it’s hard to put them aside when all you want to do is talk to them.

What you talk about is more important than how often you do it.

A vital piece of information for all long-distance relationships is that the content of your talks is far more important than the frequency with which you communicate. Too many people get hung up on talking three or four times a week. They’ll talk plenty, but they won’t say much of importance. Try to use the conversations you have to focus on key topics that will work towards a goal. For example, ask about how they feel about relationships in general and their long-term plans. You want to make sure that you have goals that coincide with one another. If you’re already in a relationship, take time to ask about their past, present, and future. It can take some time to practice, but it’s worth it.

Time is a gift, learn to appreciate it

When you can talk with someone as often as you want, you could start taking it for granted. That’s the sort of thing that drives couples apart since they aren’t making strides in their relationship. In a long-distance relationship, you’ll want to use every moment to talk about things of importance, even if you have to make an itinerary in the back of your mind. We don’t get a lot of time to figure out whether someone is right for us, so make each minute count.

Trust becomes a key factor in your relationship

The most important thing about a long-distance relationship is trust. Military members have to suffer a lot in their daily lives, and the last thing that they want to worry about is the infamous “Jody.” That’s the man seeing your girlfriend or wife while you’re away. How can you put those ugly thoughts out of your mind? Well, you have to build up a lot of trust with your partner. You must truly understand the content of a person’s character before you trust them enough, so it can take some time to build your relationship to that point. Once that happens, trust is all you have and neither one of you can give the other person a reason to violate it. Keep that feeling intact by staying true, keeping your word, and giving your partner no reason to doubt you.

Write letters

Writing letters is an art that has fallen by the wayside. However, the effort that you make to write and mail a letter will show dedication. The letter will also demonstrate that you put time, energy, and thought into the words you wrote. It’s physical proof of a relationship, too.

Use dating sites to deal with loneliness
There are a lot of dating platforms that help military singles meet and date online but it’s always better to find the one that suits you most. You can find a site that will help you meet a person from your age group, culture, race, or location. The amount of variety for dating sites is only exceeded by the sheer number of people using them around the world. Not only can you have instant, constant connections with your date, but you can schedule dates in the digital realm that you can’t have in the physical world. Not only will this give you another means of communication, but it will hold you over until you’re reunited with your partner.

Long-distance dating can be a real trial. People in the military have an even more challenging experience with this form of romance. While dating someone you can’t see in person is hard, there are some methods to close the gap. Be compassionate, use better dating methods like websites, and send one another physical proof that you are thinking of them all the time. It’ll be hard, but the reward when you meet up will be incredible.


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